Comments on: Finding the You That You Always Wanted to be (part One of Two) http://www.craftingsecrets.com/crafting/finding-the-you-that-you-always-wanted-to-be-part-one-of-two Crafting for You and Your Family Sat, 03 Dec 2011 19:51:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: TraceeCole http://www.craftingsecrets.com/crafting/finding-the-you-that-you-always-wanted-to-be-part-one-of-two/comment-page-1#comment-19534 TraceeCole Wed, 23 Dec 2009 14:38:59 +0000 http://www.craftingsecrets.com/crafting/finding-the-you-that-you-always-wanted-to-be-part-one-of-two#comment-19534 Don't women know that the "Stay at home Mom" thing means IF YOU ARE JUST VERY RICH! You cannot have kids and not work. You cannot survive off of the system. I feel for you, really do. You sound like a smart Man, so I suggest what the others did that you get a paternity test first, then go from there. The baby may not even be yours, and you'll have nothing to worry about. If it is yours, you can definately prove her an unfit parent with the courts. All they'll need to see is that she has no steady foundation. I would go ahead and call the attorney, and the first thing you ought to accomplish with him is a paternity test. I bet there is some way you can pay on it until he comes, and it can be paid for. Good Luck. Word of Advice: When you meet a girl, these are very important questions that need to be asked on the first date, or first conversation: What high school did you go to? Did you graduate? Where do you work? How long have you been there? What do you do otherwise? Are you in school? What are your goals? Where do you see yourself in 5 years. The successful/ independent women will answer these questions, with no hesitation. The opposite may look at you crazy and may not want to continue on with a relationship, because she'll feel intimidated.<br><b>References : </b><br> Don’t women know that the "Stay at home Mom" thing means IF YOU ARE JUST VERY RICH! You cannot have kids and not work. You cannot survive off of the system. I feel for you, really do. You sound like a smart Man, so I suggest what the others did that you get a paternity test first, then go from there. The baby may not even be yours, and you’ll have nothing to worry about. If it is yours, you can definately prove her an unfit parent with the courts. All they’ll need to see is that she has no steady foundation. I would go ahead and call the attorney, and the first thing you ought to accomplish with him is a paternity test. I bet there is some way you can pay on it until he comes, and it can be paid for. Good Luck.

Word of Advice: When you meet a girl, these are very important questions that need to be asked on the first date, or first conversation:

What high school did you go to?
Did you graduate?
Where do you work?
How long have you been there?
What do you do otherwise?
Are you in school?
What are your goals?
Where do you see yourself in 5 years.

The successful/ independent women will answer these questions, with no hesitation.
The opposite may look at you crazy and may not want to continue on with a relationship, because she’ll feel intimidated.
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]]> By: Courage http://www.craftingsecrets.com/crafting/finding-the-you-that-you-always-wanted-to-be-part-one-of-two/comment-page-1#comment-19533 Courage Wed, 23 Dec 2009 14:36:59 +0000 http://www.craftingsecrets.com/crafting/finding-the-you-that-you-always-wanted-to-be-part-one-of-two#comment-19533 Get a paternity test. Then fight for full custody of your son. Try to figure out (with your attorney) whether you could have your mother or close family member take care of him while you're gone until the... what is she? Girlfriend? Eh, I'll just call her the nutcase. Until the nutcase gets a job that can support the baby, as well as an apartment. You're wise to get an attorney. There has to be more options available to you. If you end up having to pay child support to her though, then just do it and then you might be able to show her not using the money for your son and eventually get custody of him when you eventually find a good woman and get married. Or shoot, when he's a bit older you might be able to take him on the road with you at least during the summer.<br><b>References : </b><br> Get a paternity test.
Then fight for full custody of your son. Try to figure out (with your attorney) whether you could have your mother or close family member take care of him while you’re gone until the… what is she? Girlfriend? Eh, I’ll just call her the nutcase. Until the nutcase gets a job that can support the baby, as well as an apartment.

You’re wise to get an attorney. There has to be more options available to you. If you end up having to pay child support to her though, then just do it and then you might be able to show her not using the money for your son and eventually get custody of him when you eventually find a good woman and get married. Or shoot, when he’s a bit older you might be able to take him on the road with you at least during the summer.
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]]> By: K S http://www.craftingsecrets.com/crafting/finding-the-you-that-you-always-wanted-to-be-part-one-of-two/comment-page-1#comment-19532 K S Wed, 23 Dec 2009 14:34:59 +0000 http://www.craftingsecrets.com/crafting/finding-the-you-that-you-always-wanted-to-be-part-one-of-two#comment-19532 OMG!!!!!!!!!! What a story... Good Lord... You r making the right move by going to an attorney... That's number one... We can chat some more if you wish.. But first, get a paternity test... And second - get this handled now... Because if not, it will get more difficult the older your child is... you can email me.. sohurt1977@yahoo.com<br><b>References : </b><br> OMG!!!!!!!!!!
What a story…

Good Lord…

You r making the right move by going to an attorney…

That’s number one…
We can chat some more if you wish..

But first, get a paternity test…
And second – get this handled now…
Because if not, it will get more difficult the older your child is…
you can email me.. sohurt1977@yahoo.com
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]]> By: Preach http://www.craftingsecrets.com/crafting/finding-the-you-that-you-always-wanted-to-be-part-one-of-two/comment-page-1#comment-19531 Preach Wed, 23 Dec 2009 09:32:39 +0000 http://www.craftingsecrets.com/crafting/finding-the-you-that-you-always-wanted-to-be-part-one-of-two#comment-19531 <b>Babys mother Two part two of one?</b><br>I hate my babies mother.? Ok here goes, i meet her and it was ok, no fire works not blinding realizations no pure truth stuff (Buying the cow, lol.) But it was just another person that you would meet along one of life's walks right. Well she was alot more into me. I didn't know this at the time, but we meet a few weeks later we go out. to me its like a more fun than anything. i stayed in town and she stayed with me. Well we had sex and i thought to my self. this isn't what i wanted. I told her and went about my way. Well 5 something odd weeks later she is blowing up my yahoo im and phone saying we need to talk. i knew nothing good would come of this. And she uttered those words. "Im pregnant". caught me all unawares. So i took it all in and said that we have three options.1. have the baby and try and make it work. 2. get an abortion. 3. Have the baby and give it up for adoption. well really four. have the baby and us do the separate mother father thing. Well at first i chose number one, thinking i need to man up and do the right thing. Well we started trying to get on that level so that we could know each other. i found out she has two different children by two different men. And that's where the story really begin. She worked at arbys maybe two three days a week. She would bring home 120 to 200 every two weeks. I found this out and i asked her how did she survive. She has no apartment, she lives with friends and family. Her car is paid for. She is always still till this day asking me for money to get things for her children that she had with other men. well these where red flags to me, major problems. i asked her to look for a better paying job and something that paid weekly. She told me that she liked it there and that she made good money. 5.75 and hour and bringing two hundred max home for two weeks isn't good money for a grown up. maybe high school but i told her that she has children. She has to do more. She said i was trying to run her life and we broke up. fast forward to today. She has since moved to Amarillo with her mother. She still has no job, she baby sits for her cousin and that is her source of income. I told her that im not going to be with anybody that does not have goals or that is lazy. She is worthless and a bum. i need some advice because im at a loss for words and i feel like ive really done it this time. please help me. I know this is a novel but i need some help.(This is from my first post a month before) OkYou may have seen my first question but so if u have this is a spin off of that one. But if not heres new news. I talked with the mother of my baby boy. im a truck driver im never home and i make decent money. Well me feeling like im not going to be a real father being in the road and her not working and being comfortable with holding a job home or any of the things us adults have come to embrace. i feel like she is unfit to raise this child. I felt like an abortion was out of the question. So i talked with her about adopting him out. Because she has a 6month old now, and a lil girl that lives in Oklahoma that she cant take care of. She lives with a family friend that ask for nothing to take care of the lil girl. She cant afford to provide her self let along her lil boy and the one she has on the way by me. Its to late for me to go back and unsleep with this woman. Needless to say that she was 1005 against giving him up for adoption. She wasn't having any parts of it. In fact she said she could get by plenty good on child support from me, all because " I don't want to be with her, and since i slept with her. I have to take the good with the bad." She will see me in court." Now don't get me wrong im not against paying child support to help in conjunction with a woman that is doing her part. But how ever. Im not for it in this case and nor would i be if this shoe was on another mans foot. She does not work and has told me that she should not have to work because taking care of these children are enough. I don't know what to do. She lives with her mother in a one bed room apartment. Its her mother , the baby and her. three bodies in a one bedroom apartment. plus a lil girl back here in Oklahoma that is coming to stay at the apartment in Sept. Its to much for me to bare and ive looked at it the best i know. Im going to talk to an attorney in the mourning. i don't know why im trying to have any kind of heart in this position but i do. the money for my son isn't a problem. its the lazy ass that sits there and does not want to work and try to do better. Now ultimately its my fault for sleeping with her, but damn i feel like im being punished. I guess what im asking is.Am i wrong for attacking back with the law to her inability to provide a decent environment and basic living situation for three children by three different men. And please as always with respect reply with ur answers. Im thank full for ur input thank you. Jesse Babys mother Two part two of one?
I hate my babies mother.?
Ok here goes,
i meet her and it was ok, no fire works not blinding realizations no pure truth stuff (Buying the cow, lol.) But it was just another person that you would meet along one of life’s walks right. Well she was alot more into me. I didn’t know this at the time, but we meet a few weeks later we go out. to me its like a more fun than anything. i stayed in town and she stayed with me. Well we had sex and i thought to my self. this isn’t what i wanted. I told her and went about my way. Well 5 something odd weeks later she is blowing up my yahoo im and phone saying we need to talk. i knew nothing good would come of this. And she uttered those words. "Im pregnant". caught me all unawares. So i took it all in and said that we have three options.1. have the baby and try and make it work. 2. get an abortion. 3. Have the baby and give it up for adoption. well really four. have the baby and us do the separate mother father thing. Well at first i chose number one, thinking i need to man up and do the right thing. Well we started trying to get on that level so that we could know each other. i found out she has two different children by two different men. And that’s where the story really begin. She worked at arbys maybe two three days a week. She would bring home 120 to 200 every two weeks. I found this out and i asked her how did she survive. She has no apartment, she lives with friends and family. Her car is paid for. She is always still till this day asking me for money to get things for her children that she had with other men. well these where red flags to me, major problems. i asked her to look for a better paying job and something that paid weekly. She told me that she liked it there and that she made good money. 5.75 and hour and bringing two hundred max home for two weeks isn’t good money for a grown up. maybe high school but i told her that she has children. She has to do more. She said i was trying to run her life and we broke up. fast forward to today. She has since moved to Amarillo with her mother. She still has no job, she baby sits for her cousin and that is her source of income. I told her that im not going to be with anybody that does not have goals or that is lazy. She is worthless and a bum. i need some advice because im at a loss for words and i feel like ive really done it this time. please help me. I know this is a novel but i need some help.(This is from my first post a month before) OkYou may have seen my first question but so if u have this is a spin off of that one. But if not heres new news. I talked with the mother of my baby boy. im a truck driver im never home and i make decent money. Well me feeling like im not going to be a real father being in the road and her not working and being comfortable with holding a job home or any of the things us adults have come to embrace. i feel like she is unfit to raise this child. I felt like an abortion was out of the question. So i talked with her about adopting him out. Because she has a 6month old now, and a lil girl that lives in Oklahoma that she cant take care of. She lives with a family friend that ask for nothing to take care of the lil girl. She cant afford to provide her self let along her lil boy and the one she has on the way by me. Its to late for me to go back and unsleep with this woman. Needless to say that she was 1005 against giving him up for adoption. She wasn’t having any parts of it. In fact she said she could get by plenty good on child support from me, all because " I don’t want to be with her, and since i slept with her. I have to take the good with the bad." She will see me in court." Now don’t get me wrong im not against paying child support to help in conjunction with a woman that is doing her part. But how ever. Im not for it in this case and nor would i be if this shoe was on another mans foot. She does not work and has told me that she should not have to work because taking care of these children are enough. I don’t know what to do. She lives with her mother in a one bed room apartment. Its her mother , the baby and her. three bodies in a one bedroom apartment. plus a lil girl back here in Oklahoma that is coming to stay at the apartment in Sept. Its to much for me to bare and ive looked at it the best i know. Im going to talk to an attorney in the mourning. i don’t know why im trying to have any kind of heart in this position but i do. the money for my son isn’t a problem. its the lazy ass that sits there and does not want to work and try to do better. Now ultimately its my fault for sleeping with her, but damn i feel like im being punished. I guess what im asking is.Am i wrong for attacking back with the law to her inability to provide a decent environment and basic living situation for three children by three different men. And please as always with respect reply with ur answers. Im thank full for ur input thank you. Jesse

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